Being Confident with yourself & Being Different

So, I notice that in my blogs, they all are generally based around the same sort of theme, and also if you saw my “Being Yourself” and “Being Me” posts, then you probably know what I mean!

But today I am going to do something that is also linked to it, and that is Being confident in Yourself Being Different. This could mean, literally, anything. If it’s either what colour hair you have or the way you dress, or what your style of music is. But, I guess this is sort of a weird title because everyone, IS different, whether we like it or not, and everyone is allowed to do things that the enjoy no matter what they think of them.


Although, when you see this title, you have many ideas of what it means, and there are many different definitions for it. And then this links on to another big issue that occurs a lot.

And today, specifically, I am going to be doing this on bullying.

So bullying is a seriously massive world, and what it is, is basically if anyone does something to hurt you, or make you feel bad about yourself, but happening, CONSTANTLY, then, that is bullying.


You may not even know that it is of course if you have been, or are in, this, but the whole point of this, is to make you a little more confident about yourself because it’s something that should be taken seriously.


You shouldn’t be afraid to talk to someone about it just because you’re worried about what the bully could potentially do to you, but it’s the way to stop it, and if you conceal it, and try to bury it underneath you, you’ll be fighting a war that you won’t be able to win on your own. Of course, bullying isn’t a war, it’s a matter of trying to prevent it, or stop it going any further.

But what I am saying is, don’t be afraid, to talk to someone, and don’t feel bad about yourself because everyone in their life, will feel exactly the same at some point in life, or like me, several times. But that isn’t true. What it is, is someone’s opinion about you. And their opinion shouldn’t make you this way because it’s THEIR opinion. Think of your family and friends who love, trust, and accept you for who you are.


And this leads on to the next thing.

Bullying is split two ways, which is the bully themselves, and whoever they decide to bully. Of course, there has to be a reason for the bully to be hurting someone like this, I mean, bullying is horrendous, and it makes people do horrible things, and make them feel bad about themselves.

But it’s also the bully.

The bully may have had a bad upbringing or they may have family issues, friend issues, mental or physical disorders, or anything. I don’t think that the bully should get the whole blame for what they do. This is because of all those things that may have happened to them in personal experiences. And until we know what happened to them, we assume.

We assume that, that person is just bullying that person because they have a mean personality. Or that they were born like that. Maybe they were, but don’t you think that is that was the case, life would be very different right now?


I think that, the bully is sometimes, but not always, but maybe sometimes, misunderstood.

Thanks so much for reading it means so much to me, and knowing that it has maybe helped one person, is just so mind-blowing and incredible and I am very grateful for your support! And as usual, I’ll be happy to read any comments on what blogs to do, or just what you thought in the comments down below!

I will be posting blogs every Friday from now on

Tess xxx



8 thoughts on “Being Confident with yourself & Being Different

  1. Karen Thorburn says:

    I was the victim of bullying for much of my childhood and I’m still living with the legacy of this as an adult. When I was growing up, there was so much pressure to be like everyone else; to be ‘normal’. I was always a bit different to other kids and so I got picked on. I’ve learned to embrace the things that make me different from other people and now I can’t think of anything more boring than aspiring to be ‘normal’. Thanks for your post, Tess, and for touching on such an important topic.

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  2. byIndiaBlue says:

    Thank you Tess. Your thoughts and insight give a new angle as to WHY? For for all those who have been subjected to it, thinking that it must be them who have brought it upon themselves, (Like I did and wondering if it’s possibly by being different)and who have been mentally beating themselves up about it they might not have considered that it might be the bully trying to work through their own issues. Sometimes, it’s not us and it really is them.

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